Translating Hard-to-Hear Feedback

• Select a phrase from the list or make up your own
• Complete grid with guess about Emotions and Needs
• Watch one of the Feedback videos
  • Feedback to Follower 2:15-2:25
  • Feedback to Follower 3:11-3:38
  • Feedback to Leader (comic)
  • Feedback to Follower (comic)
• Complete grid including all ONES
• Decode any interpretations or judgments that are part of the video
• Craft a Request

	Speaker	Listener
Emotions
Needs

Credit: Sharna Fabiano and Isaac Oboka, Miles Tangos

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Imaginary difficult-to-hear messages:

• Why are you leading it like THAT ?
• So, why did you want to start learning Tango in the first place ?
• This isn’t working. (Dramatic sigh.)
• (The dancing itself becomes uncooperative.)
• ACTually, could you lead it corectly so I can focus on what I’m trying to work on?
• Hmm, well maybe you should take private lessons with him if you don’t know how to do THAT.
• Fine, then why don’t you practice with HER then ?
• How am I supposed to…?
• Can you fix the embrace and lead the actual figure and do it a bit more musically ? Thanks.
• Frankly your (balance, lead, etc.) sucks.
• (Angry sigh.)
• You want to dance to THAT music?
• You want to try leading THAT?
• You want to try LEADING that?
• We’re never going to get this in time for the performance.
• I don’t care. (Shrug.)
• I don’t know. (Shrug.)
• I’m really worried about this performance.
• Maybe you should just…(fix your left hand, dance better, listen to the music…)
• I dunno, it seems like you just (really don’t get it / aren’t paying attention / don’t care about me.)
• Where did you get THAT (idea / figure / technique)?
• I hate this.
• Maybe if you would just FOLLOW…
• It would be GREAT if you could just…
• You stink.
• I suck. I’m never going to get this. I should just quit Tango.
• Lead like a man!